Getting older sure can be a bitch!
By the way please do not take the title of this post literally. I don't mean don't do anything and things will just magically fall onto your lap. Success doesn't work that way!
When we're younger we have this picture of how our lives will be and all the things we will have accomplished by a certain age. Then we get to said age and see that sometimes life doesn't turn out the way we'd hoped.
Hell, I thought I'd be married by 25!
Society sometimes has these expectations of us and we tend to forget that life isn't always linear and we're on different paths with varying speeds and routes but eventually, we get where we want to be. Well, that's what I believe. Our old school parents know life as childhood, college, graduation, job, marriage then kids (and in that order) or you're fucking up.
Sometimes I get bummed out when I think about my age and all the things I haven't accomplished like a house, a car or even at least getting a decent job. Yesterday my mom actually said to me "at your age you should be married" which got me feeling kind of down. She got married at like 24 and I'm passed that!
My classmates are getting married and having kids and I'm still living at home, degreeless, jobless without even so much as a boyfriend. It's frustrating! I could feel that I was starting to feel depressed after that conversation then I thought to myself, "relax, your time is coming!"
In any case why does society still in this day and age have this thing that people should have x,y,z by the time they reach a certain age?
A lot of things in the universe like falling in love for starters; aren't in our control. I'm speaking for myself here and it's not that I didn't want to be married with a family at this stage but my life just hasn't panned out that way. I can't force things...
I didn't think I'd still be living at home let alone still studying but that doesn't mean that my life is any less good than other people's. We need to stop this thing of measuring our lives and success by standards that are set by other people. I'm pretty confident but at least times out of 10 when I get asked questions like "why are you still single?", "why don't you have kids?" and anything along those lines I do start to feel bad. I feel sorry for myself. I start to think that maybe something is wrong with me. In fact, I have been told that something is wrong with me and hearing things like that freaken suck!
The most important thing in life, in my opinion, is to never give up. No matter how long it takes or how little support you get, you shouldn't give up! Don't settle and don't stop until you get what our heart desires whether it be in your career, love, finances whatever.
If you aren't where you thought you would be in life right now, I'm telling you that it's okay. there's no need to feel bad about it. It can get extremely frustrating, I know, but as long as you're pushing and working towards your goals and aspirations then my dear, you're doing just fine. Don't work according to a standard or timetable that someone else has set for you to the point that you start to feel like a failure. Remember that this is your life and only you can live it and people often won't understand your hustle and struggles.
Keep positive and keep pushing. As long as you're putting in the work, you will get that house or car or degree, whatever it is you're striving for.
Relax, your time is coming!
I'd like to leave you with this though, something we hear quite often that's pretty valid: what did you do today that your future self will thank you for?